Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

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Simon and Schuster, Sep 23, 2008 - Self-Help - 272 pages
From experienced family therapist Dr. Karyl McBride, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? is an essential guide to recovery for women with selfish, emotionally abusive, and toxic mothers—designed to help daughters reclaim their lives.

The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of narcissistic, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life. Drawing on more than two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women’s health and hundreds of interviews with suffering daughters, Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.

Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride’s step-by-step program will enable you to:

(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life

(2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage

(3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse

Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
 

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I read this book on the recommendation of a friend who wanted to show me how she had suffered due to her narcissistic mother. Unfortunately, I didn’t get much out of the book, probably because though ... Read full review

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Very informative and helpful book for me. I was given insights into behaviors and communications that I never really understood or trusted. Now I know why. Read full review

Contents

Chapter 7
7
My Mother and
37
Where Is Daddy? The Rest of the Narcissistic Nest
59
Put a Smile on That Pretty
75
HOW NARCISSISTIC MOTHERING
85
Whats the Use? The SelfSabotaging Daughter
99
Trying to Win at Love Where
123
PART THREE ENDING THE LEGACY
133
How I Feels No How I looks
165
Dealing with Mother during Recovery
181
Notes
221
Suggested Redding and Movie Viewing Source lists
227
Index
233
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Karyl McBride, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than thirty years of experience in public and private practice, specializing in treatment of trauma. She is a leading authority on narcissism and author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. She is a contributing blogger for Psychology Today, Huffington Post, and her recent book was featured in the New York Times book club. Dr. McBride can also be found online at WillIEverBeGoodEnough.com, KarylMcBridePhD.com, and Facebook.com/DrKarylMcBride.

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