Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents

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New Harbinger Publications, Apr 1, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 264 pages

Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent.

Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.


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I was very interested in the begining, just finding out about the self absorbed so I was gun hoe...there were a couple of red flags that I did not take to I kept on reading...some of the comments were you are self absorbed I came to the Nina Brown cause of the title the situation defined my life...the begining was great like I said....then BAM she hits you with now lets work on your narcissit personality...What the heck I am wounded and a reck by my abuse and she is going to call me be my enemies was like she set me up for more abuse...the little test of rating yourself really helped me see that I was so not a self absorbed person and you could be from the number scale she used in the book...but in the end if you were on the high scale or the low scale that did not matter you are lumped into the you are a freak and a hugh problem that no one likes and that you can never love anyone or even yourself cause you came from the DNA of the self absorbed parent....thanks alot Nina W. sound just like my ex step father and my mother all in stupid of me to open to anyone like you...dont read it if you have just lost your family and you are setting up the boundries this will tear you up...and leave you with alot of questions that you really have no one to talk with cause of the boundries you have for protection... 

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This is one of the few books written about the complicated sibling relationship. Compelling and very helpful. And great price. Read full review


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Nina W. Brown, Ed.D., LPC, is professor and eminent scholar in the Educational Leadership and Counseling Department at Old Dominion University. An expert on narcissism's effects on relationships, she is the author of ten books, including Children of the Self-Absorbed, Working with the Self-Absorbed and Whose Life is it Anyway?

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