Bitter Chocolate: Child Sexual Abuse in India

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Penguin Books India, 2000 - Child sexual abuse - 245 pages
A Book That Challenges Our Notions Of Family Honour And Morality

Sometime, Somewhere, The Conspiracy Of Silence Around Child Sexual Abuse (Csa) In Indian Homes Had To Be Shattered. This Path-Breaking Book-The First Of Its Kind In The Country And Subcontinent Attempts To Give That Sexually Abused Child A Powerful Voice. It Provides Damning Disclosures About Men, And Some Women, In Middle And Upper-Class Families Who Sexually Abuse Their Children, Then Silence Them Into Submission. Based On Studies, Reports And Investigation, This Book Reveals That A Minimum Of Twenty Per Cent Of Girls And Boys Under The Age Of Sixteen Are Regularly Being Sexually Abused; Half Of Them In Their Own Homes, By Adults Who Have The Child S Trust.

In Bitter Chocolate, Journalist And Best-Selling Author Pinki Virani Travels Across The Country To Record The Testimonies Of The Police, Doctors, Child Psychologists, Mental Health Professionals, Social Workers, Lawyers And The Traumatized Victims Themselves. The Book Opens With An Account-Brave And Devoid Of Self-Pity-Of The Author S Own Experience. Going Beyond Blaming, Pinki Virani Then Proceeds With Her Insightful Analysis Of The Issue In Three Notebooks. The First Spells Out What Constitutes Csa, Why And How This Happens, Its Devastating After-Effects Which Haunt The Victims As They Grow Into Adulthood. The Second Notebook Describes These Effects Through Two Real-Life Stories Of Women Who Were Betrayed As Children By Men Of Their Family. The Third Provides Practical Solutions On How To Counter Csa, Including A Framework Involving The Law, The Parent And Their Child. A Special Chapter Addresses Adults Who Have Never Before Disclosed Their Sexual Abuse As Children. Plus: A Nationally Coordinated Helpline.

Accessible Yet Comprehensive, Bitter Chocolate Is Written For The Young Parent And Guardian, Principal And Teacher, Judge And Police, Lawyer And Public Prosecutor, Teenager And Tomorrow S Citizen.
 

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Hello Readers & Authors,
It is a fact that there is around above 50% of sexual abuse in any society on this world. What I don't see clearly in this book is that, just like men/males, even women
/females also cause sexual abuse in some form or the other.
Infact women face a lot of bad temperament from the public because, some males who cannot distinguish certain realities in the society, and who have been exposed to females who verbally or socially abuse a male child or adult.
It is the way the guys are treated by women is the prime reason for hostility and sexual abuse towards women.
Infact the authors of this book them selves are involved in sexual abuse. I used to visit this place SAMVADA which was run by Anita. she had her colleagues Dr. Arun Kotenkar & Lucy kumar, When I was studying at Vijaya college, bangalore.
I once happend to introduce my girl friends to these ppl, and my girl friends were very close to me and one day Lucy Kumar in public commented about me that "I know only fucking & not anything else". Though my girl friends were not present at the venue when this lady abused me. I felt lot hurt and I brought this to the notice of Dr. Arun kotenkar, and he just accepted that it was a bad situation and kept quiet.
So ppl who are reading this pls note that the author's of this book are them selves abusive and have no right to discuss or appear as experts in these matters, the police ppl are better and reliable.
These ppl didnt stop at that they went ahead and insulted a good wisher girl who was working at SAMVADA, in my presence, saying that she stole money.
By writing this review of this book, I am bringing this to the notice of general public that these ppl who have written this book are not practicing what they preach. They are a batch of wast bodies in our society.
If any of you need more info, you can write to me on radheevar@yahoo.com and I shall let you ppl more info on these incidences.
Thanks for reading
Radheevar Kale
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radheevar@yahoo.com
 

Contents

three months
3
what the numbers reveal
18
a mother on the run
31
unofficial secrets
50
the aftermath
64
seven years
80
mothers
97
men
124
child protection units
180
five years
188
exit cycle
197
to the victim
204
healing by yourself
213
thirteen years
225
helpbooks
231
helplines
237

nine years
135
secondary victimization
155
dealing with disclosure
169
afterword
244
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