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bove remarks which Mr. Horne has addressed - married candidate for missionary employmay suggest a word of caution for younger At one time missionaries were generally reended to marry previous to their embarking oreign land: but the serious inconveniences have arisen, both to individual missionaries societies, from the adoption of this advice, rought a considerable change in the opinions reet persons on the subject. It is a question st too delicate a nature, for a committee to e upon; yet is it of too great importance to ted in a work which is intended to assist the ary in his proceedings.

e can be no question, that a missionary's wife dially enters into the views of her husband, terially assist him in his work: yet must it essed that few are able to give much of their attention to matters beyond the sphere of mestic circle. A young mother, in a tropical generally finds enough to employ her at Frequently have I heard pious and devoted ries' wives lament that they could enter so o their husband's appropriate duties; and I wn very few indeed who had health or oppordo more than attend to a small female school

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near their own habitation. This has proved a great disappointment to some excellent young persons who expected to co-operate as fully in their husband's work as the wife of a minister in their native land. Some, indeed, who had health for active occupation from home, and were less engaged with domestic duties than missionaries' wives usually are, have employed themselves very usefully among the native families and in India, where females of respectability are never to be seen by men, it is chiefly through the medium of his wife that the missionary can gain access to their ears. The late Mrs. Judson, of Rangoon, is an interesting and exemplary instance of this devoted piety; and I could name others, were it not that they are still engaged in their "labours of love," and would blush to see themselves and their unobtrusive works held up to public admiration. These instances have, doubtless, increased the disappointment of their sisters in the vineyard who have not been able, for reasons already assigned, to follow their example. In the cases, however, to which I allude, there have been comparatively few demands of a domestic nature to call the attention home. Every one must allow, that a mother's first duties are with her family, especially in countries where young children can seldom be confided to a native servant's care and a female so employed ought not to feel dissatisfied with herself because prevented from engaging in missionary work. I would not say a word to depreciate the services of a missionary's wife, for they are most valuable to her husband, even though they may not extend beyond

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elf and his children. With every abatement the picture often drawn at home of her "deul task" abroad; though she may neither be erty, nor possess strength, actually to share his rs; still the solace of her company will lighten res, her counsel may contribute to remove his lties, her sympathy will reconcile him to distment, her prayers encourage him to renewed on, or her attendance smooth his pillow in ss, and assist in restoring him to his Master's

withstanding this concession, which is cordially as the result of my observations on most naries' wives whom I have had the pleasure of ng in India; yet ought the young missionary cautioned against premature marriage. The ference I wish him to draw from these observathis, that a wife is not so indispensable, and babilities of her sharing in his peculiar work t so great, as he may have been led to supSwartz and others laboured long and sucy without marrying. The circumstances of ntry for which a missionary is destined may as to demand of him no trifling sacrifice of or convenience, and even to expose him to t danger. In such a case, it would cere his duty to attend to the advice which St. ve to unmarried Christians in the unsettled ous state of the primitive church (1 Cor. vii). culties and embarrassments of a foreign sta sometimes unknown, nor can they be ima

gined at a distance from the scene. A right-minded missionary would disregard them were he exposed alone to their consequences: but he would be unworthy of the love and confidence of a tender wife did he not feel distressed at the bare apprehension of her suffering with him. I have seldom, indeed, known one who was not as ready to endure such trials as her companion, and have more than once been put to shame by the female's patience in trouble and fortitude in danger. But that very cir cumstance is calculated to increase her husband's uneasiness at her sufferings; and his regret, if not self-reproach, that he has inconsiderately brought her into such a situation. I cannot, therefore, refrain from advising the missionary to consider the expediency of marrying at the commencement of his career on grounds very different from that of necessity, which has hitherto been assumed. Nor do I hesitate to declare my opinion, that it is very inexpedient.

Besides, he cannot know whether his own constitution is adapted to the climate to which he is going until the trial has been made. His health may immediately decline, incapacitate him for work, and soon compel him to return home. Such an event must greatly disappoint both himself and all that are interested in his undertaking: and it cannot be necessary to remark how much the general feeling of regret would be increased, were he charged with the cares of a family. Young men, without experience, and animated with hope, are seldom inclined to entertain considerations that threaten to interfere with

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mmediate accomplishment of all their wishes; the conscientious missionary will yield to the sity of this discretion when he is informed several instances have occurred of missionaries constrained to relinquish their post under the l circumstances just adverted to; and of others have been removed to their eternal rest before abours have been begun, leaving a widow, and imes children, dependent upon the funds of espective societies. If a missionary desires to , still, much of this distress would be pre, a comparatively trifling inconvenience in, and his happiness and usefulness ultimately ted, were he to wait till he has taken time to sh himself in his work, and to ascertain wheis likely to remain in it. Surely it is not too o expect of one engaged in so sacred and rele a calling, that he should use the discretion s exercised by considerate men of every secuession. Very few civilians, medical or milificers, engaged in foreign service, think of upon the cares of domestic life, until they fair prospect of being settled, and are at to attend to the duties which must naturally cted to increase upon them: and nothing an the exercise of similar prudence by the ry, is recommended by the foregoing sug

stances indeed sometimes occur, either with o the missionary himself or the station for is destined, which render it desirable for o out married. In that case a committee of

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