How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women"What happened to the passion we started with? Why aren't we as close as we used to be?" PROBLEM: If you are a woman who is unfulfilled in your marriage...if you feel unheard or overburdened...if you quietly live in a state of slow-burn resentment... PROBLEM: If you are a man unhappy that your partner seems so unhappy with you...if you feel bewildered, unappreciated, or betrayed... This book offers a solution Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real -- drawing on his pioneering work on male depression -- gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised. Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, no other relationship book is as straight talking or compelling in its innovative approach to healing wounds and reconnecting partners with a new strength and understanding. |
Contents
Bringing Men in from the Cold | |
The Dance of Contempt | |
A Conspiracy 01f Silence 6 The Unspeakable Pain of Ilollusion | |
An Ilnconyentional Therapy 8 Small Murders How We Lose Passion | |
A New Model of Loye 11 Recoyering Real Passion | |
Control Reyenge and Resignation 12 Intimacy as a Daily Practice | |
Relational Esteem | |
Learning to Speak Relationally | |
S annin rth Positi e 15 Staying the Ilourse Negotiation and Integrity 17 what It Takes to Loye ENDN | |
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How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women Terrence Real No preview available - 2003 |
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